Father often calls men "kings" and women "queens." In The Total Woman Marabel Morgan says this to help women understand what that means: "Marriage has also been likened to a monarchy, where the husband is king, and his wife is queen. In a royal marriage, the king's decision is the final word, for his country and his queen alike. The queen is certainly not his slave, for she knows where her powers lie. She is queen. She, too, sits on a throne. She has the right, and in fact, the responsibility to express her feelings, but of course, she does so in a regal way. Though the king relies heavily on her judgement, if there is a difference of opinion, it is the king who makes the decision."
"Now hold on, I know just what you're thinking; remember, I've been through all of this, too. What if the king makes the wrong decision? Oh, that's a hard one, especially when you know you're right, and there are times when that is the case. The queen is still to follow him, forthwith."
Father explains why men are better leaders in "Perseverance and Contemplation". He says men "as a rule" are more persevering and contemplative than women. Women are more "disruptive" and "problem-causing" because they "react quickly". He compares them to pianos : "If you strike a piano key the tone is played instantly." For this reason, God has rarely made women leaders. He says, "It is mainly because they lack perseverance" that "God has not tried to use women as central figures in the dispensation." Because God's dispensation takes a long time he needs men to lead because they think long range. At the same time: "He should not be dumb though; he should have keen, sensitive thinking."
Women hate men's nature. It drives them crazy. They want everything right now -- just like the children they take care of at home. Women and children live in the here and now, but men don't. Father says it is "nerve-wracking ... especially to Western women ... His wife would like to express keen emotion, but he will just think deeply and come to his own conclusion. A very sensitive woman would get thinner and thinner with this kind of husband. It would be like eating yards and yards of thread, when you can hardly swallow one foot."
"What is the work of dispensation like? It is something like continuing to swallow hundreds and thousands of fathoms of thread, one after another. Which would be easier, to swallow all that thread, or to complete the dispensation? Swallowing thread might be easier. How can we imagine women doing that? Those women who are confident they are different, raise your hand. God knows best, however, and as a result He has refrained from using women as central figures. I would rather have the women, even Mother, leave the room and then discuss the important work of dispensation with men. In this Mother is outdone by her own young son. If Western women hear this they will really protest that I am discriminating. They can't tolerate that idea."
Phyllis Schlafly writes of this persevering nature of men: "Women are different from men in dealing with the fundamentals of life itself. Men are philosophers, women are practical, and 'twas ever thus. Men may philosophize about how life began and where we are heading; women are concerned about feeding the kids today. No woman would ever, as Karl Marx did, spend years reading political philosophy in the British Museum while her child starved to death. Women don't take naturally to a search for the intangible and the abstract." Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. They really are from different planets, from different worlds. Men are far more tenacious than women.
Father says men can fight better than women and take torture better. Men are the ones who will track down an enemy. Satan is the enemy, and men's responsibility is to lead the way to victory. Because of this Father says, "We have to conclude that it was wise of God not to use many women in dispensational history. You women might think you have no reason to feel good at this point!" When men have failed as central figures for God it is because they didn't go the distance: "Whatever mistakes were made in dispensational history usually resulted from a lack of perseverance and deep thinking."
Women are too impatient for God to use. Sisters must be patient with brothers and understand the line in the song in the Pocahontas movie which says you can't know the height of a tree if you cut it down. Father is the ultimate in persevering and thinking deeply. Satan is for everything instant -- instant food and instant sex. Father is training us to be spiritual marathon runners -- men as leaders and women as mothers of 12 children.
Beverly LaHaye explains that women are more emotional and need men to guide them spiritually: "The Bible gives us countless examples of the disastrous consequences of violating the principle of male leadership. With Adam and Eve, we see that Adam, as firstborn, should have provided Eve with spiritual leadership, especially since Eve's open and trusting nature made her susceptible to Satan's lure."
"Interestingly, statistics show that more women than men read Christian books, teach Sunday school, and ask spiritual questions. When not under God-given spiritual authority, this potential strength in women becomes a great weakness. Have you ever noticed that the vast majority of fortune-tellers are women? A recent television commercial advertising a psychic telephone service showed a series of satisfied female customers. Perhaps this is a reflection of women's openness to the spiritual world."
"When the serpent approached Eve, it was not because she was less spiritual than Adam, but because she was more emotionally responsive to misdirection. A modern woman's susceptibility to misdirection is the same as Eve's, no matter how logical or brilliant she may be. It is partially because of the women's interest in knowledge that God directs the husband to be the spiritual head of the family. Remember, a woman's weaknesses are pride and an insatiable desire for knowledge, both of which make her easily deceived. The husband's responsibility for spiritual leadership is a grace gift given by God for the wife's protection from deception."
The cover of Think a Second Time says"Dennis Prager is a true Renaissance man." One of his accomplishments is that he"has coauthored the most widely used introduction to Judaism in the world and is currently teaching the Hebrew Bible verse by verse at the University of Judaism in Los Angeles. Prager has engaged in interfaith dialogue with Catholics at the Vatican, Muslims in the Persian Gulf, and Protestants at Christian seminaries throughout the United States." He writes: